Keyholding
This section is for you — the person holding the key. Search for keyholding advice and you get books, forum threads and a lot of fantasy written by people who have never had to decide whether to unlock at 2am. These pages are the other thing: how the arrangement is set up, what belongs in writing, what to do when it stops being fun, and which calls are yours alone to make.
Written by Kevin Voss with input from keyholders. He has only ever been the locked half of the arrangement — his partner held the key — so where a claim comes from a keyholder's experience rather than his, the page says so.
What this section covers
Nothing here is published yet — the section is being written now, in this order. Nothing gets posted before it is worth your time.
Starting out as a keyholder
What the job actually involves week to week: unlock schedules, hygiene checks you should insist on, what "no" looks like when he is the one locked, and the safety decisions that stay yours.
Agreements and contracts
What to write down before anything is locked — duration, unlock conditions, hard limits, who holds the spare key, and how either of you ends it without a fight. With templates you can adapt.
Games, tasks and reward structures
Structures that hold up past the first month, from dice and card games to task lists and earned time. Written for people who want this to stay fun rather than turn into admin.
Long-distance and app keyholding
Holding a key you cannot physically reach: what apps and timers do well, where they fail, why every remote arrangement needs a physical override, and the Cellmate lesson about trusting a lock to software.
Locktober and seasonal challenges
The October lock-up, how to set one up so it is finishable, and how to handle the point mid-month where somebody wants out. Published ahead of the season, refreshed every year.
Orgasm denial and FLR, explained plainly
What denial does and does not do, how couples actually structure a female-led dynamic around it, and the difference between a game you both chose and a habit nobody checked in on.
Before you lock anything
Two things decide whether this goes well, and both live in the guides: the base ring has to fit, and you both have to know how the device comes off in a hurry. Fit is the safety issue, not the cage.